Depression, Endurance for the Journey, Featured
Helping a Friend Who is Battling Depression
EMOTIONAL SUPPORT
So speak encouraging words to one another.
Build up hope so you’ll all be together in this,
no one left out, no one left behind.
1 THESSALONIANS 5:11 (THE MESSAGE)
You can also offer your friend much needed emotional support.
Here are some suggestions:
Learn about depression so you are better able to understand what your friend is experiencing, why he or she may be reacting in certain ways and what to expect while your friend is in treatment.
It’s okay to ask someone who is battling depression how they are feeling. However, if you ask, stick around to really listen. Your friend needs to know that you aren’t just asking out of courtesy but that you really care about how he or she is doing.
Don’t dismiss negative and disparaging remarks. Your friend is being honest. It’s okay, however, to gently respond with truth-based and hopeful comments. However, if your friend or loved one makes comments that are self-destructive, seek immediate help. Depression can be life threatening.
Initiate activities with your friend that he or she likes, especially if those activities involve physical exercise such as golfing, swimming, hiking, etc.
Don’t be forceful with your friend about participating in social events and activities. Encourage but don’t push. You may cause your friend to feel overwhelmed or guilty. One woman described her depression as the equivalent of driving a car down the freeway in first gear. No matter how hard she tried, she couldn’t use a higher gear. Don’t expect your friend to drive faster than he or she is capable.
Offer encouragement and praise when your friend takes positive steps towards recovery such as joining a support group, exercise or art class.
On the journey with you,
Jan & Dave Dravecky
